Because I am AMA, I was sent to a specialist to get my routine 20-week ultrasound where they found everything to be perfectly perfect. But, because of my AMA, they could only GUARANTEE me perfection if I agreed to an amniocentesis. "Is there cause for concern that would necessitate an amnio?", I nervously asked. Their response was that they found nothing alarming or noteworthy, but if I wanted a GUARANTEE I would need an amniocentesis. They asked me THREE times!! THREE!! I am so grateful that my husband was with me to assure me, once we were safely outside, that everything is fine and they are just trying to do their job and be thorough.
Is anything a guarantee?? Did I need to worry? Would it serve me better to know that there MIGHT be a problem so that I could prepare myself? Or is it better to live the rest of my pregnancy in ignorant bliss?
I just had a follow-up with my OB who said, "I see you went to get your ultrasound and everything looks great. How'd you like that whole 'AMA' thing?" Bless her.
She proceeded to tell me that she has 10 patients right now over 40 who are having babies. This reminded me that my grandmother gave birth to my mother in 1940 at the age of 40. She must have really been an outcast!
Don't get me wrong....I am fully aware of the increased risk. Really I am. And it IS a valid concern.
I guess the bottom line is, I don't feel advanced - in any sense of the word.
Betina
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It's funny but since we live in NY most of my freinds have all been over 35 when they have had at least one of their kids. I had my second at 36 and my third at 39 and a 1/2! My sister just had her second at 42 and her best freind had her second last week at 43. There are no guarntees in life, and the "tests" that are offered to us, though I guess can be helpful, can't guauruntee anything but the fact that our doctors told us all the risks and protects them from lawsuits. Congratulations! How exciting to be expecting! I look foward to reading more about your journey!
I was AMA with my last! I didn't get the amnio. I don't really even remember if I was asked. But, it's so scary getting that ultrasound b/c they take so long and you wait in that room! We were actually getting nervous. Everything was fine. But, even if they would have found something on the ultrasound, I'm not sure I would have done the amnio. Thanks for linking with us at the S&R weekend hop!
Yah 'Tin, it is about the lawsuits. It's sad how much liability dictates to all of us in our daily lives...yikes!...don't get me started;)
Funny how I was just worried about my idea of getting pregnant again at the age of 36 and then I clicked on your blog from VB Blog Hop ( which I was going to and still will welcome you ) ...then I read your blog. I am going to be having the IVF because I am getting married again, and Had my tubes tied 10 years ago.. so I can not get pregnant any other way :( ( Tubes can not even be un-tied) though when we went to see the IVF Specialist he said that the average age of women getting pregnant is 36 .. so hang in there .. You are good ;)
Now when you get the chance .. Please stop by and say HI I would love to have you :) I am also following you now too.
And Congrats on the baby!!!
Thank You
Kirsten
http://theemtmommy.blogspot.com
http://kirstiesbowtique.weebly.com (You can sign my GB )
I like to think that 40 is the new '30' nowadays. As long as mom & baby are ok, why label it that way?!? BTW thanks for stopping by my blog.
Many blessings,
Barbara
http://spanishforkids-jbplbarbara.blogspot.com
I completely agree that "40" is the new "30". Let's just go with that!! And thanks for all the congratulations and support. It's nice to know that I'm not the ONLY one!!
Betina
I can't believe they said this - amnio's are so risky so if you stats were good they actually shouldn't have recommended it! So glad you didn't take their advice. Anyway am following from Voiceboks, thanks for your lovely comments on my blog too btw,
Nicole
http://www.myidealife.com.au
I had my fourth child when I was 33. My daughter had her last child at age 43. Children are a joy at any age. Congrats. Doylene
If 50 ( like me) is the new 40 then 40 is the new 30! So the ama thing is just a giggle. Thank you for the fun post. Happy to hear you and baby to be are happy and healthy.Hugs!
That's just what I was thinking Katherine as I am now in my 40's and heading to 50, and we all know how fast that will go!
~Courtney
Like we need any extra reminders that time is marching on!!
Thanks for stopping by Snapshots :)
I hope your pregnancy goes well. I've seen many women deliver over 35 with healthy babies and pregnancies (I am a postpartum nurse). I even once had a patient that was 49!
Betina, good for you! You shouldn't feel advanced at all :)
I'm only 32, but I already feel like I'm AMA, but that's probably because I've been trying to get pregnant since I was 25 and didn't have my first baby until 2 months before my 30th birthday and now here we are 9 months into trying some more. I guess I just figured I would be done having kids by this age and not still just trying to get started.
I stopped by to return Courtney's comment on my blog. Thanks so much for the visit!
Jenn
Coolest Family on the Block
(voiceboks)
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